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Every
night found me nagging my kids for the same thing: "You guys,
look at your room. Get your toys picked up right now!"I
didn't understand it. They would have their room picked up, but
a few hours later, it would be messy again. Toys all over the floor,
blankets on the floor. Toys in the hallway; toys
downstairs.
I definitely
was getting tired of looking at the mess, tired of stepping on Legos,
but it was more than that. I was aggravated that they didn't appreciate
what they had!
When
I was growing up, we had only a few toys. I took good care of those
toys - I still have my Tinker Toys in the original metal can with
the included instruction book - and I'm 37!
My
parents didn't have to nag me all the time - I don't think - to
pick up my toys. I know that I appreciated them because they were
so few and far between.
My
kids have been less fortunate in that respect - tons of toys from
Grandparents and relatives for Christmas.
Toys
that move, make noises, and you name it.
They
definitely don't appreciate the abundance of toys that they have.
So, I figured that I'd teach them what it's like to appreciate them
or they wouldn't get to have any!
One
day I told them that every time I stepped on a toy, or had to pick
up pieces of a set, or had to pick up something that was left out,
it was going in the trash.
And
that's what I did. But it didn't work.
You
see, they ended up having ALL their toys in the trash. It was annoying
because there wasn't anything left to play with when other kids
came over.
And
it still didn't solve the problem of not appreciating what they
had.
They
didn't even have time to miss the toys - they didn't have to. It
was only a short while before the next birthday or holiday brought
in a new batch of them.
So,
with my thinking cap on, I came up with my next plan of attack -
a sticker and reward chart system.They
were excited, thrilled, and motivated. When they got up in the morning,
they'd do all the things on their chart, anxious to have the boxes
filled up with stickers.
But,
stickers and reward charts only work once a day! When the
"my toys are picked up" box has a sticker, the rest of
the day
went down the tube.
And,
it didn't work to just give stickers at bedtime. They had no motivation
to pick up during the day, and it became a nightmare divvying out
all the stickers when bedtime already dragged on longer than it
should!
So,
I gave up for awhile. The lecture method didn't work, the "tossing
toys" method didn't work, and the reward chart didn't work
the way I wanted it too.
My
kids were messy and unappreciative, and I needed to do something
about it - fast.
My
friend Judi didn't have that problem. Her kids got out one toy at
a time - even when company was over - and put up that toy before
getting out the next. When it was time to leave their house, it
was a snap to clean up with just one toy per child.
She
had all these little boxes and containers for their toys with little
pieces, so I thought that maybe that was the secret. On
my next trip to Walmart, I bought some containers to hold the toys;
and a big box that held some community toys.
Unfortunately
all that changed was that I now had empty containers in the kids
room with toys on the floor.
So,
one day, I finally asked Judi, "How do you get your kids to
keep their toys picked up?"
"Well,
you know," she said, "I used to go crazy with all the
toys everywhere that never got put up - hurting my feet from stepping
on them...until we started to use the 'Saturday box'."
"What's
a Saturday box?" I asked.
"It's
just a container that we have, and every time a toy is left out,
it goes into the Saturday box. Then they have to wait until Saturday
to get their toys back."
"Ohhhh..."
I said. A new concept that hadn't occurred to me before!
"And,
the great thing about it," Judi continued, "is that they
can still see the toys all week. That way they know what they're
missing - that solved our 'out-of-sight-out-of-mind' problem."
I just
nodded with agreement and understanding - I was totally following
her.
So,
back to Walmart. :-)
I got
each kid a container with three drawers to keep their small toys.
I explained to each of them that they could only play with one toy
or set at a time. I made it very clear that if anything was left
out, it would go into the Saturday box.
Their
eyes were wide with amazement.
They
knew Mommy was serious.
So,
the first day went without incident. Then, on the 2nd, there was
the first infraction.
"Maegan,"
I told her, "you left out a Polly Pockets. It needs to go into
the Saturday box."
Now,
she is only three years old; but she understood. We put the toy
in the Saturday box - a clear plastic container on the kitchen counter.
EVERY
day she was asking me if it was "Saturday". Fortunately
for her, we had started mid-week so she only had 2 days to wait.
The
boys ended up with a few toys in there too.
It's
amazing how a simple box called a "Saturday box" can solve
a lot of problems and teach "appreciation" at the same
time!
If
you still have problems with toys being scattered everyone and nothing
has worked for you, give the "Saturday Box" a try today!
Author: Laura
Bankston. About the author:
Laura Bankston is author of homeschool curriculum: Homeschool
Cooking in a Box and the Homeschool Cookbook. She currently home
schools her three children, maintains home school support
websites, and manages their family-owned service business. For
information on her curriculum and free home school support
services, please visit http://www.homeschoolcookbook.com
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